Growing up, when we were acting foolishly, my parents (to my memory) typically didn't use our first, middle and last names. You know, "Abigail Noel Rice, go to your room (or whatever)!"
I don't know about Matt, but I'm guessing the same.
Either way, Matt and I have had the conversation that we will try to avoid that. When Hannah is in trouble, I can't remember a time I've said her whole name, or even just her first and last. It doesn't help that she has four names and nine syllables (Olivia's whole name has 11 syllables) so maybe I am just verbally lazy.
Matt and I have talked about when our children are acting foolishly, we don't want them to think that only when we use whole names (or raise our voice) are we being serious.
I'm sure you've heard the mom or dad in the restaurant "Joe, stop doing that." Joe keeps on doing it and then it's "Joseph John Jenkins, I said stop."
I kind of think Joe should stop when his parents say stop, not when his whole name is used (or when they start yelling).
Just my opinion, but what do you think? Do you use your child's full name? Do you feel like it's more effective? Do you reserve it for when they are really in trouble? Or do you just call them something else? (kidding about that one).
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Oh, this is funny because I was just telling my BFF today how I'm typically not a yeller, but this weekend, I've yelled a few times and he listens. I remember my mother saying, "You only listen when I yell!" *sigh* But I'm with you on the kid should listen even if we just use his first name and don't yell, but what is it about that...HE DOESN'T LISTEN!!!
Anyways, we use his entire name sometimes when he's in trouble, but we also use it other times when he's not in trouble, too. His middle name is after his grandpa, so I like to use it!
And now, after your post about Santa, I really want to take Logan to get his picture taken with Santa :)
This made me laugh out loud! I never would have though of that. Ever. In a million years. But you're totally right — it's conditioning them to wait to respond! And now I'm thinking of all the other irrational and backwards parenting methods I will probably employ over the years...ha!
That's why it's called the spanking name. :) I use their full names quite frequently....probably occasionally when they are in trouble (specifically my oldest...) but certainly not only then. We are big obey the first time no matter what name you are called. That's why I also don't believe in counting to three...but that's another story.
did mine post?
that is really annoying when you write a lot and it doesn't post!
we dont use whole names. i think is because jeff and i were not raised that way. makenna didn't know for a long time what her middle name was.
regarding elf on the shelf...i just learned about this. not a fan. my kids better be good for me! not for an elf or santa. that is so weird!
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