We will be switching to our full names soon, we just have to wait until our attorneys get the affidavit that her birth father won't be filing for paternity. In all honesty, it's not that big of a deal, we've set this blog to private, you can't find it through a google search, but we just want to be extra careful until she's 100% ours.
We met with H's birth mom and maternal grandparents last night. We were nervous, but excited. It had it's awkward moments, some silence and some crying, but over all, it was wonderful and humbling.
H's birth mom is a sweet, tender, beautiful young woman. Who, at the right time, will be a wonderful mother.
H's birth grandmother is very proud of her daughter and has stood by her during this very difficult decision. Something a lot of grandparents wouldn't do. She too, is beautiful and has a commanding, almost intimidating presence.
Her birth grandfather is very warm and caring. He seemed laid back and fun. H's birth mom and grandmother have some fire in their personalities, and we've seen that already when H does NOT want to be in her crib! But for the most part, H is very laid back, something she must have gotten from her grandfather.
We are so grateful to have met them. We were told that they would like to see pictures so I picked about 5 over the last 5 weeks. They became quite emotional when they saw them. It was very humbling to see the effects of, in the grandmother's words, "the tremendous gift" they have given us.
I had a hard time sleeping last night, just processing over and over the things that were said, things I wish I would have said, but most of all just processing the reality of how wonderful and difficult adoption is.
We will be excited to share with H how much she is loved by her birth family. How much they sacrificed for her.
They are and will continue to mourn for their loss. And then they will heal. And their healing will never mean they are "over it." But that God has given them peace.
We are grateful to be able to pray more specific prayers for the whole family. We pray for their comfort, for them to know God's love, presence and a peace that passes understanding.
3 comments:
So glad to hear it went well. We will pray for them.
a- thanks for the update. i was thinking of you all yesterday. i am at a loss to imagine what it must have been like. i would think the meeting brought a bit of closure for them. and i am sure they saw Christ in you. love to the three of you, kristi
i am glad things went really well! i am loving the blog!
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