We had another meeting with Olivia's birthmom, Miss R today. I don't really have much to say about it, but I had mentioned it was going to happen so I thought I would fill you in. And I really don't feel like getting up from my computer, so now's the time I guess.
First of all, and I mean this respectfully, but she is young. So young. Everything about her is a child. Basically, she is who any 17 year old girl would be. She's just like I was at 17. Except she's super cute. And a mother.
Throughout the conversation, Matt and I got a feel for some decisions she is making. Nothing too awful, but our desire to parent her came out and we both struggled not to say the things we would say to our children in that situation. I really just want to adopt her too. Or at least let her live with us.
I really do mean all this respectfully. I mean, how can we not love this girl? She gave us the greatest gift on earth (literally, is there a better gift? Fleece sheets don't even compare and that's saying something). So how can I not want what's best for her too?
We saw pictures of Olivia's birth father. He is tall, very handsome. Olivia is pretty much an exact mixture of her birthparents. Looks and personality both. Birthmom is quiet, calm, serious, even tempered. Birthfather is (according to birthmom) loud, fun, can get rowdy, can be aggressive. Liv is serious, quiet, yet rowdy and aggressive.
Hannah came too, as she usually does. She was incredible. She usually clams up around people she doesn't know (and can get into trouble) but not tonight. She was seriously throwing around all her colors, numbers, verbs, Bible verses, songs. It was ridiculous she was so well behaved and cute. At one point she climbed onto the back of my chair and tapped my shoulder. When I turned around she kissed me on the lips and said "I love you mommy."
She was like a walking, talking advertisement for our family. We seriously looked like the greatest parents of all time. Which is a good thing to look like in front of the girl who gave us her baby.
So, yes. It was joyful, awkward, humbling and uncomfortable. But, that's how we roll.
4 comments:
Way to go! You're amazing people! Praying for more little arrows in that quiver...y'all are a gift!
that is so interesting yall meet. i would love to hear more about this. is this going to happen often (open adoption)? will u see hannah's mom again? i assume olivia wasn't with you???
I agree with Heidi...it is really amazing to listen to you talk about your babies birth moms. It is really awesome how God is using you to bless so many. :)
I just caught up on your last few posts - tears in my eyes, your girls are beautiful and you are such a great mom. It's awesome to see the way God has designed your family so perfectly, and it's obvious that Olivia and Hannah were always to be yours. You are so thoughtful and attentive to them in ways that probably wouldn't even dawn on anyone else. I am always inspired when I read your blog, so please don't stop writing. :)
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